Reminders

Why I Don’t Need a Makeup Tutorial to Teach Me How to Wear a Hijab

A fantastic article originally on Under a Blue Tree

 

When I first started wearing hijab, my mother would pin it for me every day—a square scarf that she’d fold into a triangle, pin under my chin, and whose ends I would then tie into a little knot on my chest. I’d go to school (where my sister and I were the only girls in hijab) like that, thinking that I looked pretty good, especially if I was wearing a particular blue silky scarf that made 5th-grade me feel glamorous. There were other aspects of my wardrobe that I wished I could change at 10 years old (namely the many denim shirts with flower decals that my mother loved buying me so much)—but I can’t recall feeling inferior to anyone because of my hijab style (or lack thereof, really) at that point in my life.

Fast forward 15 years. My fashion sense has developed considerably, and my hijab has gone through various style-phases, but it’s still there on my head, though it’s now more often secured with 3 pins instead of 1. But when I see images and videos of hijabis who teach others online how to wear this piece of cloth, now I feel somewhat inadequate. I had never considered that not being amongst many others who wore hijab during my youth could have had its benefits. But perhaps it allowed me to define for myself what my hijab should look like. I wonder how my formative pre-teen and teen years, as well as my concept of hijab, would have been different had I had access to hijab and makeup tutorials when I first started out—or, more importantly, had there been girls around me who followed them. I was content with my cotton scarves and bubble gum lip balm. But if I was 10 years old today, I think I’d be draping necklaces on my head and yearning for red lips.

I had the opportunity to grow into my hijab, to have it contribute to my own personal style and sense of individuality—and I believe that that is a right that every woman has. The requirements of hijab are a foundation around which women of different cultures, ages, and circumstances can work. As long as everything that needs to be covered is properly covered, one cannot call another woman’s hijab incorrect simply because it is different from her own.

But there is a key difference between shaping my hijab around the standards laid out in the Islamic tradition and styling my hijab around the standards laid out by society. The desire to conform is something real and it’s something that I fight against almost on a daily basis. What I was shocked to experience was feeling the need to continue that internal fight while around other Muslim women. I think the woman in a flowy tunic with white skinny jeans and stiletto heels looks beautiful, and the woman with red lipstick against a black hijab is striking, but I know that certain elements of their style are not ones that I can mimic with a clear conscience. And so the battle against myself and the beauty norms that I see around me, but that I choose not to adopt in an effort to please God, has permeated even my safe space.

I recently came across a video tutorial on “hijabi makeup”—how to dress up your face in order to make it stand out from the background of your hijab. There are tutorials on how to style your hijab with matching makeup for holiday celebrations, tutorials on “everyday makeup” for hijabis as though we can’t step outside without properly pink cheeks, ones for hijabis with blue eyes vs. brown eyes. The conversation still exists on the oxymoron of hijab with makeup, but each Islamic conference that I attend shows me that the norm is swiftly moving away from clean faces.

The fact that mainstream messages regarding women’s beauty standards have permeated into Muslim fashion is a testament to the rapid growth and development of our community, but also something that each Muslim woman should take the time to notice and consider on an individual level. I have to remind myself on an almost daily basis about the spirit behind my hijab. I style it and match it, but remind myself that it is not an accessory. It is a form of worship to my Creator that I get to show to the world every minute that I’m outside. And so I try to guard my hijab as I do any other form of worship. As its purpose is submission to God, I try to ensure that I am not simultaneously “submitting” to anyone else’s code of dress while wearing my hijab.

There is a difference between looking presentable and looking like a presentation. I know that any hijab will turn heads, but I am careful in ensuring that the one who turns will have nothing to see when he/she takes a second look. Stiletto heels, red lipstick, smoky eyes, jewels on my forehead—all of these will hold a stranger’s gaze on me and, for that reason, work directly against the spirit of the cloth on my head.

I find it to be a mercy that God revealed in the Qur’an that the believing women must “not reveal their beauty except that which [naturally] appears thereof” [Ch. The Light: verse 31]. We were created beautiful as humans, and certain manifestations of that cannot be hidden—and God is telling us that when they’re natural, that is normal. But when we place them there to beautify and accentuate, then they’re no longer natural, and that should not be part of our normal.

In conversations about hijab, the question arises of whether one has the right to deem another’s choices right or wrong. While our focus is on ourselves, it is natural for us to compare ourselves to others and to participate in an exchange of ideas on an experience that we share. For that reason, every woman has a place in the discussion, and we welcome its continuation in the comments below.

Ramadhaan Reminders

We are coming towards the end of the first week of Ramadhaan, the best of all months, the month of the Holy Qur’aan. It is a time of reflection for us, whether we are better in our spirituality than before, whether we are engaging in more Ibaadah or whether we are continuing our bad habits and not making a conscious effort to change our ways.

The Shayateen have been locked up and they are no longer whispering into our heads. We are free of their influence, yet we continue our sins. Why is that? Simply because, through the course of the year, we have been conditioned to sin without even thinking about it. We sin without realizing we are sinning, we sin without realizing the negative effects on our hearts and souls. We sin without realising that it is Shaytaan who is influencing us, without realising that he even exists!

Our hearts have become rusted through the course of the year and this is our chance to polish our hearts. Let us take these few weeks and use them to the best of our abilities. By the end of this month, we should be able to say that we have done away with ATLEAST one bad habit and gained one good one. May Allah accept our efforts, Ameen!

A few Ramadhaan Tips that will, inshaAllah, be of benefit:

  • When you wake up, before checking your phone etc, engage in some dhikr.
  • Prioritize your Salaah before anything else. Do not let Shaytaan win even when he is locked up.
  • Do not become frustrated at your inability to change instantly. We have been conditioned towards sinning for a long time, and it will take time to change!
  • Allah’s help comes to those who want it and to those who are patient, do NOT give up!
  • It is Mustahab (preferable) to take a break after 4 Rakaats of Taraweeh. Use this time to read Qur’aan/do tasbeeh etc.
  • Reading 1/4 juz of the Qur’aan after each Salaah will enable you to finish the Qur’aan in 24 days. (This is very helpful for sisters who need to take account of days they will not be praying.)
  • The reward for every deed is multiplied by 70! So, every £1 given to charity, it is as though you have given £70! Take advantage of this!
  • Listen to recitations of Surahs that you are trying to memorize. It is much easier to learn the Tajweed!Record yourself reciting the Qur’aan. This will make it easier to rectify mistakes you make!
  • Make sure you understand verses before moving on to the next one. This will inshaAllah benefit you in Salaah as well. The Qur’aan was revealed over 23 years and it’s not going to run away. No cramming!
  • This month is not about food. Don’t waste your entire day preparing for Iftaar.
  • This may be your LAST Ramadhaan! Make good use of it! In fact, we have not even been promised tomorrow!

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